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by Danny Byram | Dec 27, 2019 | Church Leadership, Gratitude, Happy New Year
With the dawn of each new year, the English-speaking world has a fascinating tradition. We stay up ‘til midnight, count down our time zone’s version of midnight, lift a glass of bubbly, kiss our sweetie, toast the new year, and sing a circa 1788 Scottish song that none of us understands, except maybe Scottish pastor Alistair Begg.
“Should auld acquaintance be forgot, and never brought to mind?
Should auld acquaintance be forgot, and auld lang syne!
CHORUS: For auld lang syne, my dear, for auld lang syne; We’ll drink a cup o’ kindness yet, for auld lang syne.”
Translation: “auld lang syne” means “days gone by.” In American English, the final line would render “we’ll drink a cup of kindness, to remember days gone by.”
What is implied in this auld song is that we are encouraging one another to remember the good times. Well, sure! Who wants to dredge up the mistakes of the past? However, the Bible assures us there is valuable perspective to be gained when we choose to recall both: the good and the not-so-good past. I experienced this truth when visiting a church in Virginia Beach that started with a bunch of surfer dudes…
SURFER DUDES AND BABES
This “surfer church” was birthed from a tiny group of Christians befriending surfer dudes and babes on the beach. Through the simplicity of friendship, young, tanned, stoned beach people encountered Jesus and a church was born, now a very large church.
During my visit to one Sunday School class, I met a professional-looking married couple. Their story: Decades ago, after high school, they lived together in a tent on the beach. He surfed while she created and sold seashell jewelry to buy food, booze, and pot. One day, someone shared Christ with them and their lives radically changed.
After the Sunday school class ended, we filed into the main sanctuary for corporate worship. As we sang “Amazing Grace,” the familiar lyrics rolled out of my mouth without a thought: “Amazing grace, how sweet the sound, that saved a wretch like me.” Yet I noticed as this couple sang, tears streamed down their faces. After the service, I asked them why they wept during Amazing Grace. They answered, “We will never forget how wretched our lives were before we met Jesus.”
That is the power of remembering “days gone by” (“auld lang syne”).
The Apostle Paul reminds us of how wretched we were before we knew Christ: “slaves of sin, children of darkness, deceived, tossed about, confused, enemies of God” (Ephesians 5). Such a list tempts us to ask, “But isn’t that negative? Why bring up those ‘days gone by?’” I understand. Recalling my own wretched past can cause me to pray for amnesia. Jesus’ visit to Simon the Pharisee’s home (Luke 7) is a bold illustration of the dangers of such amnesia:
“When one of the Pharisees invited Jesus to have dinner with him, he went to the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. A woman in that town who lived a sinful life learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee’s house, so she came there with an alabaster jar of perfume. As she knelt behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them. When the Pharisee saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would know what kind of woman is touching him!”
Jesus, knowing his thoughts, said, “Simon I have a story for you: two people owed money to a lender. One owed 500 and the other 50. Neither of them could pay, so the lender forgave the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?” Simon replied, “I suppose the one who had the bigger debt forgiven.” Jesus said, “Correct. Do you see this woman? I came into your house and you gave me no water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You did not greet me with a kiss, but this woman has not stopped kissing my feet. You neglected the courtesy of oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. Her sins – which are many – have been forgiven – so she has shown me much love. But whoever has been forgiven little, loves little.”
Simon the Pharisee was respected, wore fine robes, probably expensive rings, had a nice home with servants. But somewhere in his prosperous religious work, he lost perspective. He failed to remember he was as needy and sin-filled as the woman at Jesus’ feet. Kinda like me, when I sang Amazing Grace without a thought of its meaning.
The Apostle John’s word to the church in AD 95 is sobering to us religion-brokers in the 21st century: “You (church goers – church staffers) say: ‘I am rich. I have everything I want. I don’t need a thing.’ And you don’t realize that you are wretched, miserable, poor, blind and naked.” (Revelation 3)
CAN WE LISTEN TO SIDE “B” NOW?
Fortunately, there are two sides to remembering. Paul also lists who we are now in Christ: “joint-heirs, redeemed, children of light” – the list goes generously on. Remembering our identity can motivate us to adjust our behavior today in order to have no regrets in our future yesterdays.
So, on New Year’s Eve, let’s “drink a cup of kindness” to remember “days gone by” so we never forget how rescued we are from ourselves, our damaged legacies and the superficiality of life without Christ. Whether we sing “Auld Lang Syne” or “Amazing Grace,” let’s weep with gratitude that He has saved wretches like us. Happy New Year!
by Danny Byram | Nov 22, 2019 | Advent, christian worship, christianmusic, Christmas, church, Church Leadership, pastor, Worship, worshipleader
The first Christmas after my wife and I moved into a new community a few years ago, we attended a number of local Christmas worship services.
At one popular church, we were greeted by elves issuing earplugs at the doors. The lead guitarist illustrated his skill in pulling off a “Christmas-shredding-solo,” while the female lead singer pranced about the stage in skin-tight black leather with a red Christmas bandana across her head. To their credit, the Christmas story was read by the pastor, but he hesitated throughout the reading as he awkwardly tried to pause and pace for the canned video/musical cues that were supposed to match his narration. I felt like standing up and yelling, “Just read the story to us!”
In another church, we heard the Luke 2 narrative of the angels’ visitation of the shepherds in the field “keeping watch over their flocks by night.” She (an associate pastor) said, “those shepherds weren’t just frightened. They had the BA-JESUS scared out of them.” We left.
Finally, we attended another church with a more traditional approach. They performed a Christmas cantata, complete with orchestra, choir, soloists and narration. All the of the carols were performed for us, with the conductor turning around to cue the audience when we were allowed to sing along on one verse or a chorus (“Glo-o-o-o-o-or-or-or-or-or-o-o-o-o-oria”) – only to cut off the singalong, turn back around to re-cue the orchestra and choir for the next pre-arranged segment. As we stared mostly at the conductor’s backside all evening, listening to “Christmas-sung-for-us,” our daughter turned to me and said, “Dad, you talk about wallpaper worship? This is it!”
Each of these examples is real. Each happened within a few miles of our house. Recalling each experience gives me a feeling of dread as we stare at the upcoming Christmas season.
I have always felt there are certain holidays in our church-worship-year that nudge corporate worship to be executed differently than our regular weekly services. Christmas is the easiest of church holidays for church leaders to NOT screw up – but we manage to do so anyway. With all the latest worship resources, flashy gear, hip song arrangements and YouTube clips to mimic (posted by huge churches and commercial worship companies who have better talent and more money than most local churches have), it is tempting to employ every tool at our church’s disposal and unleash it all on our heaviest attended service.
With the retail world already unleashing Christmas hype on us by October, is being “unleashed on” what our congregants want or need on Christmas Eve? With all the noisy and crowded places church-goers frequent during the holidays (malls, shops, restaurants, parties) perhaps congregants would consider their church leadership incredibly creative and brave for delivering a Christmas Eve worship experience that’s simple, real and authentic.
You know…simple, real, authentic – kind of like how Jesus entered the world.
In her Washington Post op/ed a few years ago, millennial Rachel Held Evans wrote: “The trick isn’t to make church cool; it’s to keep worship weird. You can be dazzled by a light show at a concert on any given weekend, but church is the only place that fills a sanctuary with candlelight and hymns on Christmas Eve.”
This year – if you’re a leader – why not plan a Christmas Eve service that is simple, real and authentic? If you are an attendee, chances are good that you will leave a simple, real and authentic Christmas Eve service thinking: “Thank you! That was refreshing.”
“The perfect church service would have been the one we were almost unaware of; our attention would have been on God. But every novelty prevents this.” – C.S. Lewis
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by Danny Byram | Oct 30, 2019 | christianmusic, church, Church Leadership, Contemporary, Liturgical, Music & Songwriting, pastor, Traditional, wallpaper worship, Worship, worship songs, worshipleader, worshipmusic
Ever been to a quiet, classy restaurant with your sweetie? White tablecloth – pressed napkins – two candles – rose in a vase. It’s relaxing just imagining it. Your well-dressed waiter appears and gives you the evening’s specials from memory. After taking your wine order, he leaves to allow you to choose your evening meal. You two are taking in the atmosphere: Low lights – smooth jazz in the background – and staring into the eyes of the only person you want to be with, in this setting.
As you begin your long-awaited conversation, the waiter returns to pour your wine and take your entrée order. He disappears and you continue to talk together, alone. The waiter returns to ask for a clarification, which you politely give. He leaves, your conversation resumes.
The waiter returns to repour your water glasses and asks how the wine tastes. You give him a positive nod. He then puts down his water pitcher, pulls up a chair and begins to explain the differences between California wine and Italian wine. He leaves again. You try to resume your conversation only to be interrupted again by the waiter serving the appetizers. He then gives you a full description of where the pigs, used in your bacon-wrapped appetizer, were raised and fed. He leaves. You try to remember where you left your conversation, only to be interrupted again by the delivery of your entrees. This time the waiter doesn’t leave. He sits in the chair he previously pulled up, watches you eat, and gives you factual information of how the chef prepared your meal.
The point of your evening is lost. The interruptions have broken the intimate conversation you came to enjoy.
Worship can be like that.
On Sunday, at church, the musicians have chosen a great set of songs. They tastefully lead you, the worshiper, to a place of intimacy, devotion, and readiness to receive something spiritual. You are poised. You are ready. Like the soft jazz in the restaurant, the keyboardist is padding quietly.
Suddenly, the associate pastor jumps on the stage: “Everybody having a good time? Hey! How many of you have signed up for the All-Church Retreat? Lemme see the hands. Woo-hoo! Also, we need more workers in the nursery. It’s a great way of serving and you’ll be blessed. Sign up in the lobby. And for anyone who’s into communion, make sure you grab a wafer pak in the baskets by the doors at some point during the service. Now give someone a HIGH FIVE!”
I call this WORSHIP INTERRUPTUS. It happens too often.
Back to the restaurant: You came to have a meaningful, intimate experience with the love of your life – only to have it shanghaied by an obnoxious waiter.
Back to the church: You came to have a meaningful, intimate experience with the Love Of Your Life (Jesus Christ), only to have it shanghaied by a leader who fails to understand the importance of FLOW OF SERVICE, PLATFORM ETIQUETTE, INTIMACY VERSUS INTERRUPTUS.
When we as platform leaders take our people to a vertical point in time – a moment of spiritual readiness – and then immediately reverse that moment, we jerk our congregants from vertical to horizontal – from heaven to earth – from God to one another – from one another to an annoying “waiter” on the platform.
This isn’t rocket science. Yet, its frequency is disturbing.
The Apostle Paul admonishes his confused congregants and frustrated leaders at the church in Corinth: “All things should be done decently and in order.” (I Corinthians 14:40) King Solomon understood the bigger picture: “There is a time to weep and a time to dance; a time to keep silent and a time to speak.”
“Oh, I know,” church leaders say. “Where to put the announcements is a constant struggle.” There are many solutions to this problem and one size does not fit all. But wherever we put announcements, we must not lose sight of the larger purpose of our gathering: to lead the sheep to the living water, so they can actually drink it.
“For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3
by Danny Byram | Oct 2, 2019 | christian worship, christianmusic, Church Leadership, Leadership, wallpaper worship, Worship, worship songs, worshipleader, worshipmusic
It takes a lot of tools to build a house: router, drill, generator, roofing nailer, finish nailer, framing nailer, air compressor, chainsaw, jigsaw, reciprocating saw, circular saw, chop saw, levels, diagonal pliers, wire strippers, box nose pliers, linesman pliers, needle nose pliers, adjustable wrenches, chisels, socket set, tin snips, shovels, rakes, extension ladder, step ladder, sledgehammer, keyhole saw, hacksaw, utility knife, bolt cutter, chalk line, hand saw, tape measure, hammer.
There are also tools we need to use if we are going to lead congregants in worship.
If you’re a worship leader (or you know one you can share this with…) pay attention: Your congregants want to participate. But if your weekly reality reveals your people are not following but simply observing, then what’s the point of being a “leader of worshipers?” There may be some basic tools you are missing or not using.
Jesus said, “My Father is seeking worshipers who will worship Him in spirit and truth.” It may be a blow to our egos to point out He did not say “the Father is seeking more worship leaders.” Ultimately, He wants to hear from those in our audience, not just those who lead them.
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by Danny Byram | Sep 27, 2019 | christian worship, christianmusic, church, Church Leadership, Contemporary, Leadership, Liturgical, pastor, praise, Traditional, wallpaper worship, Worship, worship songs, worshipleader
Each morning I put a K-CUP in my Keurig. It produces a decent single cup of morning coffee experience. Then I prepare one for my spouse. I discard the first one and repeat the process. There have been many times I have stared at the plethora of K-CUPs in my kitchen trash, only to grieve their short-lived lives. If you have tried producing another cup of coffee with a used K-CUP, you know the results are less than satisfying. It’s as if the K-CUP says: “Hey! You already used me. I’m done. Move on!”
Modern worship song repertoire can be like that.
Worship leaders are finding it difficult to keep up with the amount of new songs coming into the marketplace. (CCLI has over 100,000 worship songs in its catalog. Spotify reports 40,000 new songs added daily.) Leaders and congregants can get frustrated because there is not enough time to repeat a song to endear it to the hearts of listeners. Too often the result is silent church-goers staring at song lyrics they heard maybe once, somewhere in their week – or was it from last week’s service? With the barrage of material coming at us, many songs are used once and then discarded. K CUP worship songs.
I recently heard of a pastor who told his music team not to use any songs that are over 6 months old. There are a lot of K-CUPs in that worship leader’s trash. I mean, when was the last time you heard the 1990s hit “Shout To The Lord” used in a worship service? Even though I may hear from someone who used it just last week (bless their heart), the point stands: Worship songs we were singing even a few years ago are long gone, out-mode, like used K CUPS: “Hey! You already used me. I’m done. Move on!”
In my WORSHIP WORSKHOP and in my book WALLPAPER WORSHIP, I emphasize the idea that worship (not simply music) is, among many things, our HERITAGE. Harkening to the past is not anti-contemporary. It is ANAMNESIS, the “art of remembering.” Realized or not, when we worship through music or other rituals, we stand on the shoulders of those who went before us.
The classic hymns were the body of song material used by Protestant churches for centuries. Though there were thousands, not all hymns survived. English hymnwriter Isaac Watts (When I Survey The Wondrous Cross, Joy To The World) wrote over 6,000 in the early 18th century. Fanny Crosby, early 20th century American (Pass Me Not O Gentle Savior, Blessed Assurance) wrote over 9,000. Though much of the hymn repertoire is gone, hundreds remain part of our modern heritage of worship music. With today’s songs so quickly discarded, I often wonder if any of our modern songs will stand the test of time? (Be Thou My Vision is cr. 9th century. How’s that for passing the test of time?)
It’s not just our songs (modern or from antiquity) we’ve discarded. We’ve managed to reduce the communion sacrament to a K-CUP. When pastors fail to explain communion to worshipers, and shrink-wrapped communion cups are offered from a basket somewhere in a corner, the implied message: “Take it at your leisure. Put it under your seat or in your purse for later. Take it in the bathroom, the parking lot, wherever or whenever you want.” The only instruction we actually receive: “Make sure to properly dispose of the shrink wrap and the cup in the trash receptacles.” K-CUP Communion.
If we discard most of the songs of our faith in a few years, and we fail to lead people in worship through the richness of experiencing communion corporately, what other elements of our worship heritage are we willing to discard like K-CUPS?
“All that now is will be forgotten in the days to come.” – Ecclesiastes 2:16 (NKJV)
(Let us read your comments, whether you’re experiencing the KCUP phenomenon OR if your worship situation is balanced and fulfilling.)
by Danny Byram | Jun 4, 2019 | christian worship, christianmusic, Church Leadership, Contemporary, Leadership, Music & Songwriting, pastor, wallpaper worship, Worship, worship songs, worshipleader, worshipmusic
The church in America is in a cycle of prosperity. Impressive church venues are everywhere. Millions of dollars are spent to remodel sanctuaries, build new ones, purchase gear, keep up the latest trends in stage production – live video capturing – and worship song-set automation software. Yet, many who attend services find themselves standing in silence, watching screens, and observing performers on a platform. I call this lack of congregational engagement Wallpaper Worship.
In his endorsement of my book, author Philip Yancey says: “In my lifetime worship has changed from something we do before an audience of God to something a few semi-professionals do for an audience of us.”
C.S. Lewis recognized this problem over 70 years ago: “The perfect church service would be the one we were almost unaware of. Our attention would have been on God. But every novelty prevents this.”
WORSHIP LEADERS: “SOMETHING’S WRONG, BUT WE DON’T KNOW WHAT IT IS.”
In my work with worship leaders across the country, I hear from good-hearted, talented church musicians: “Something is wrong, but we don’t know what it is.”
Let’s consider… The “worship industry” is now a multi-billion-dollar segment of the music and entertainment industry. The American church market purchases over $1.5 billion a year of production gear from audio and video retailers (Music Trades magazine, February 2019). Worship song-publishing/recording companies produce new songs daily, with videos promoting a singular sound – a monochromatic look – and a homogenized form of leading from the platform.
Is this new? Technologically, yes. Historically, no.
Throughout history, expressions of worship were governed by rules which reduced congregational participation to “stare-at-the-platform-and-listen-to-us.” Priests clad in gorgeous attire with elaborate “worship gear” on sanctuary altars, would perform worship for the people. The problem? (There were many…) Leaders led in Latin which most worshipers didn’t speak or read, and congregational participation was allowed only during the Eucharist. The result? Congregants simply watched and listened. Sound familiar?
Even more concerning was when the church found itself relying on monarchies, dynasties and other secular shareholders to promote its mission. The problem? When the church becomes an industry-driven machine – opposed to a spirit-and-truth-driven organism – its message can become diluted and its mission compromised. The result? The message of human fallenness, repentance, redemption, sacrifice, suffering, and sanctification becomes eclipsed with messages of personal actualization, self-healing, and emotional relief from social, political or personal injustices. Sound familiar?
PASTORS TO WORSHIP LEADERS: “MAKE IT LOOK AND SOUND LIKE THAT!”
Leading music in today’s church, even in small rural settings, can quickly become about mimicking the latest worship-industry wave to attract more sheep. Seems like a worthy idea. However, when the worship industry needs and feeds the church, and the church needs and feeds the worship industry – resulting in passive or even frustrated congregants – then something may indeed be wrong.
Pastors or elders will view YouTube videos of arenas full of worship-music fans, with hands in the air, gathered in front of a stage occupied by music professionals – supported by world-class venue production, pristine sound, eye-candy lighting and smoke – and then dictate to their worship leaders: “Your job is to make our Sunday service look and sound like THAT.” After long hours and spent offerings, often the result is local congregants passively watching screens, silently sitting, or leaving for coffee – feeling performed at by musicians they’ve never seen before in their church.
Worship leaders ask: “What do we do now? Bigger production? More expensive effects? Newer songs? Slicker automation? What more do they want? What’s wrong with THEM?” To find relevant answers, perhaps we should ask different questions:
- Do we even believe something is wrong?
- Regarding local church worship: Does one size fit all?
- Is some corporate industry pushing the idea that ‘one size fits all?’
- If so, who and why?
I do not think there is some sinister plan by the music industry to undermine the church it profits from. However, history clearly reveals the church as vulnerable to being wooed from her mission and message, especially when there are billions of dollars involved.
So what’s the SOLUTION? As shepherds of worshipers, our job is to lead in a language our sheep understand and respond to. The Object of our worship said, “My sheep hear my voice and will not follow a hireling.” (John 10). If worshipers are not following, leaders are responsible. Good shepherds will make adjustments on behalf of their sheep (Ezekiel 34) – laying down their own preferences, agendas, and yes – even their lives.
Does one size fit all? What do you think? Please comment below.
Singer/Songwriter/Speaker/Author DANNY BYRAM has performed on over 100 US military installations worldwide since 1987. His work earned him the name “The Combat Musician” from chaplains and troops. Danny also directed 26 Promise Keepers NFL-Stadium events for men, including the Clergy Conference (the largest gathering of clergy in history), and 36 FamilyLife arena events for couples, working alongside Marantha! Music and Integrity Inc. His book: WALLPAPER WORSHIP: Why Church Music Sounds Better, Fewer Are Singing And What To Do About It is available on Amazon, Christian Book Distributors, and from CLCPublications.com. His music is downloadable through iTunes and Spotify.
